I don't know of anyone who has made it through college without going through a breakup. Just because they're common though doesn't mean they're easy!! Here are some ideas to help make it easier
*This quote puts things in perspective so much!... "Watching you walk out of my life hasn't made me bitter or cynical about love, but rather, it has shown me that if I wanted so badly to be with the wrong person, how beautiful it will be when the right one comes along."
*make yourself a breakup survival kit. In it keep tissues, chick flicks, a list of why you're amazing (written by you and people you love), $10 to go buy yourself something (jewelry, gum, silly putty, makeup..), a breakup cd, a funny book, comforting scriptures, pictures of you with people you love, you're favorite lotion, a pep talk letter written to you from you, a list of girls you look up to that have had breakups. they know how you feel and it helps to know your not alone. print and cut out some quotes about breakups and also include some inspirational ones!
*clean out your life. you need a fresh, clean start and the first step is cleaning out your living space and getting rid of old reminders. Put fresh flowers in your room and open the windows. Spray a lavender room scent... mmm doesn't that feel better??
*spend time in nature. don't isolate! go on walks in the evening and watch the sunset. Go swimming. Ride your bike. Go on a hike. Read a book in the park!
*let yourself be sad! It's devastating when someone you loved is suddenly out of your life. You miss them and you go through a grieving process that's very similar to the grieving over a death. Cry as much as you need for a few days. Remember the good times and miss it. Cry over the bad times and how much it hurt.
*this is my favorite part after a breakup. It turns all the pain into something good. I call it the 'revenge plan'. Not the kind of revenge where you beat up his car. We're going to be the bigger person! Revenge doesn't have to be bad. The best revenge is to live a happy life. Wether you are mad at your ex or you just miss him this will help. What you do is make a list of every way you want to improve yourself. Try to focus more internally than on the outside appearance. Here's an example list:
-spend 20 minutes a day on spiritual things
-move for an hour a day (walk, hike, swim, dance, clean, play tennis)
-wash face every night..no sleeping in makeup!!!
-volunteer at the day care once every week
-every day try to make one person feel like a million bucks
-get 8 hours of sleep
-spend more time laughing and less time zoning out in front of a computer
-spend more time with your girlfriends and work on meeting some new friends
Why this helps so much is you improve your confidence, shows your ex that he lost a great catch and it makes you that much better for the next guy that falls for you.
*remember that just because you miss someone, it doesn't mean they should be a part of your life. Learn the lesson you needed to learn and move on. You're leaving something good behind for something better
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