Ncmo's

NCMO's


For those who are not familiar with the term "NCMO" quite yet, well it's time to get familiar because you will hear the term very often! NCMO stands for Non Committal make out aka just making out with a guy even though you aren't dating.


How to tell of a guy really likes you
-do not kiss him until the third date. If he really likes you he'll respect that and work hard for the kiss. if he's just in it for the action he'll give up and find a girl who will give him what he wants


-of course physical attraction is important but if all you do is kiss it could be a red flag. A good tip I've heard is try going a week without kissing. If you still love spending time with each other great! If not it's time to reevaluate


-does he incorporate you into his life? If he's not introducing you to his family and friends he's not planning on you staying in his life.


-Ncmo's don't seem like a big deal but life is so much better without them. I don't think it makes you a bad person. I just think it creates so many problems AND lowers your self esteem. Living in Provo you see the same people over and over. I've ruined many great potential friendships by kissing the guy and it not working out.


-so say you're with a guy and you know what's coming next. Here's some ideas to avoid kissing. Remember the longer you make the guy wait the more he wants it! (within reason; wait weeks not years!)
*dont watch movies!
*dont hang out past 12
*dont be alone
*keep distance


-Don't let the guy run your life! Be the one that is hard to hang out with, but dont be so unavailable that he just stops trying!  Being ready to hang out with him 24/7 makes him know he can just call you when he "wants some."  Make him realize you are more than just a girl to kiss.  I know that when I have not been available every time whenever HE wants to hang out that I have found better success with a relationship rather than just being the "NCMO girl."


-honestly the best advice I can give is to use your intuition. I'm a big believer of gut feelings and always following them. You know what's best for you. You can ALWAYS tell if you're not being treated right, it's just so easy to justify everything. If something about the guys doesn't sit right with you don't brush it off. Bette to be alone then in bad company! Life's too short to spend time with people who don't see your worth and you deserve the best!

Wanna be a Professional?

Ultimate Frisbee
Before we went to BYU, we barely dabbled in the game of ultimate frisbee. First few weeks at BYU we realized EVERYONE AT BYU LOVES the game.  Therefore, it's vital for you to learn how to play! 

Here's a site that can help you learn how to play: 

http://www.whatisultimate.com/what/what_game_en.html

Volleyball
Volleyball is a great game and a great way to get to know people! There were many times when we would randomly join in on volleyball games.  Most of the apartment complexes have a volleyball court or at least one not too far away, so there are plenty of opportunities to play!  Not familiar with the game? Well check out this site to learn the basic skills:
http://volleyball.about.com/od/volleyball101/u/UPGetStarted.htm

Now I hope you can use these sites to become pros in both the sports! Let's be honest... Guys love when girls are athletic and skilled.. (;

Dating tips

a few dating tips:::
*a lot of girls feel insignificant in provo. there are cute girls everywhere you look. remember that just because someone else is pretty it doesn't make you any prettier or uglier. so if changing how you look isn't the answer how do you get noticed....

*to get noticed you need to stand out. you need to have something that's rare and makes you memorable. what is that..it's confidence! if you accept yourself and love yourself people notice. it gives you a certain presence that people love being around. when you're not concentrating on how your makeup looks or what to say next you can focus your attention on the other person and make them feel important.

*do NOT kiss until the guy works for it!! this is so important and can be so hard. if the guy doesn't work for it he'll 9 out of ten times move onto another girl in a few weeks. you're a prize...make him work for it!! the things that are most worth it are the hardest to get

*to make the first kiss happen consider the following: think of your dream kiss...you can make it happen! Say you want to kiss under the stars. Call your boy and tell him to not make plans on a Friday night. Say you have a fun idea. Go to the park with an ice cream container and spoons, and watch the sunset. Stars come out..and you have your perfect setting. See how you do that? Now for the kiss: have Chapstick and gum with you. Smell good but not overwhelming. For soft lips, put Vaseline on your lips the night before and exfoliate them with a toothbrush. Now all you have to do is make sure you guys are close(to break the touch barrier just offer him a back massage!). Let's the conversation stop naturally, look into his eyes (ya scary but just do it!) and lean in. It doesn't really matter who actually goes for it but try to let him go the last 10%

lets DANCE

One thing about provo that's a fact: there is never a shortage of dance parties! Even if you don't like dancing it's a great way to meet new people and 

this is the party bunny named Houdini. my friend brings it to every dance party! It's so funny and everyone loves it. he swears he doesn't do it to meet girls...it just happens to work out that way ;)

To ensure a fun time, go with fun people!

Fun date ideas!

Comedy sportz is hilarious!!! It's an improv show that is good clean humor.  It costs only $8 per person.  Not bad!  It's located on main street in Provo (very close to BYU).

http://www.comedysportzutah.com/

Provo Beach Resort is such a fun place!  There are soo many things to do there and it's pretty cheap.  There is a ropes course, miniature croquet, bowling, and so much more!  It's a whole lot of fun, especially for a group date!

http://www.provobeachresort.com/

Visit temple square!  It's gorgeous, spiritual, and FREE!  It's a great group date idea.  We went their a few times.  It's especially pretty around Christmas time, but just dont forget to bundle up!

Ice skating!  We went ice skating once or twice.  Hailey actually went ice skating on a date once, and fell and scraped her knee.  (She literally fell for him! No pun intended...)  Peaks ice arena is cheap, not too far away, and is a great time!  And if you are really having fun, its great to hold hands while you skate around! 

In the Fall go to haunted houses!! SO fun, SO traumatic (eh not really but still), SO perfect for holding a guys hand or getting super close. ;) Guys love to protect you during haunted houses! Look out for special deals. Last year we bought one pass that let us go to three different haunted houses! 

Ahh, Squaw Peak.  If you haven't heard about squaw peak yet, trust us, you will.  It's the infamous place people go to make out. It has an amazing view as you see above.  If a boy asks you out on a date to Squaw Peak, DONT GO. Unless you're into kissing on the first date. (;

a few dating tips:::

*a lot of girls feel insignificant in provo. there are cute girls everywhere you look. remember that just because someone else is pretty it doesn't make you any prettier or uglier. so if changing how you look isn't the answer how do you get noticed....

*to get noticed you need to stand out. you need to have something that's rare and makes you memorable. what is that..it's confidence! if you accept yourself and love yourself people notice. it gives you a certain presence that people love being around. when you're not concentrating on how your makeup looks or what to say next you can focus your attention on the other person and make them feel important. 

*do NOT kiss until the guy works for it!! this is so important and can be so hard. if the guy doesn't work for it he'll 9 out of ten times move onto another girl in a few weeks. you're a prize...make him work for it!! the things that are most worth it are the hardest to get

If you're bored... HAVE A BONFIRE!

There have been many nights where we weren't sure what we should do to have fun, so we would spontaneously go up into Provo canyon and build a fire! It was a cheap way to have fun.  Most of the boys you meet in Provo are Eagle scouts, or at least have gone camping a billion times in their lives.  So bring them along!  They always argue on how the best way to make the fire is, but that's okay, the job still gets done.  Make sure you bring your own materials like paper and such so you can get the fire going. And please oh please do NOT forget a lighter... That complicates things.  We always had fun getting to know each other each time we decided to adventure into the canyon for our firey fun! We played games like hide and seek (which was surprisingly fun!), truth or dare (always a good one), and just told many funny stories.

If you're bored... GO TO THE HOT SPRINGS!

Once, we spontaneously decided after a football game that we wanted to go to the Hot Springs in Spanish Fork.  It was a little bit of a drive to the edge of the hike, but it is well worth it!  It is also a 2.5 mile hike.  We didn't think the hike would take that long, but it takes longer than you think! (Maybe we just were really eager to get there!) But it's super fun!! Our advice: don't go super late at night like we did, it makes it harder to hike because you have to be more cautious.  We think the best time to go would be around 7 o clock because it gives you time to hike, enjoy the sunset in the fun hot springs for a few hours, and then hike back in the evening! 

What we think you should bring:

-A swimsuit that isn't your favorite swim suit! The sulfuric smell from the hot springs takes a while to get rid of!

-flashlights for the walk back

-towels

-shoes that you dont mind hiking in

-maybe shoes you wouldn't mind wearing in the water (flip flops are really fine)

-a bag for all your stuff

-a camera to capture your fun adventures!


http://www.ajroadtrips.com/go/t/utah/northern-utah/diamondforkhotsprings